Finding Me...

many people talk about finding themselves.
What does that really mean? Are you lost or wandering aimlessly just taking life as
it comes?
I think that you have to reach within yourself and perhaps go to some dark places
to find yourself.
For me it is more about listening to my inner self. That self that I always tell to shut up..or ignore the voice to do or not to do something.
However, the more you listen to the inner self you build that trust, especially when you are not caught up with self doubt and insecurity.
I think it is about trust...trust that you will make the right decision and if it is not the right decision not fall apart.
What do you think?
How can you find your inner self?